Guard Your Social Network
Protecting Your Mental Health through Human Connection & Support
"Being vulnerable with the right people can transform our lives."
If you’re reading this blog, you probably value health and recognize its importance in maintaining happiness and success. First, let me commend you for having that mindset; you are definitely on the right track.
How is human connection and support connected to health?
According to the World Health Organization (WHO) “Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.” Social scientists have also found that involvement in a social network may help us avoid physical and psychological illness. Therefore, health goes beyond our physical being but encompasses all dimensions of our life. You will also recognize that we need human connection to thrive. Having a social network is a need, not a luxury or a mere desire; connection and support is an integral part of the human experience. There is good news, social support can come from a number of sources, including intimate / romantic partners, friends, family members, clergy, and co-workers and even persons you meet on social media. Life has challenges and it’s helpful to know that you have people who would listen to you vent, who could provide guidance and assistance if you are ever in need, people who you could have fun with or even attend sessions at CORE Wellness TT.
Some of us may be great at giving help yet struggle with receiving; others of us might be willing to take, take, take but rarely allow ourselves to be of service to others. However, healthy relationships are mutually beneficial and satisfying; it is not one sided. For you to truly be connected with another, both of you would need to be willing to allow that give and take, willing to be vulnerable and witness vulnerability. What is vulnerability? It’s essentially the ability to trust someone enough to share a part of you that you usually hide from the world. Being vulnerable with the right people can transform our lives.
As I wrap up, some things to keep in mind - we should:
Avoid Emotional Vampires
Evaluate all your relationships (work, family, friends etc.) and see whether that person contributes positively to your life or if they are toxic. As much as possible, you want to avoid toxic relationships because they drain you mentally and emotionally. They can also be the source of much distress and our body does not do well with too much stress.
Surround Ourselves with Healthy Relationships
Be intentional about the persons you allow into your life, make sure you are connected with persons who add value to your life. Think about the persons who help you to ‘de-stress’.
Seek Professional Help
If you recognize that you are in a toxic relationship and you see no way out, I recommend that you seek help. You might be afraid, you might even feel ashamed and that’s alright. Those are normal feelings but I encourage you to reach out. We at Enriched Life can help you.
About the Author
Crystal Benjamin, PhD., CFLE-P
Relationship Educator, Enriched Life Limited
Dr. Crystal Benjamin is the witty relationship educator and CEO of Enriched Life Limited, the premier relationship education company in the Caribbean. Dr. Benjamin has been working with individuals, couples, families and groups for over 8 years and has a profound understanding of family science and the skills needed to foster healthy relationships.
Through facilitating workshops, coaching and counselling clients she has witnessed lives being transformed in as little as one session; her clients have been able to successfully overcome negative relationship cycles, implement personal boundaries, identify unique skills, take steps to improve their marriage and pursue happiness.
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